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Today about half of all marriages end in divorce and many people struggle in unfulfilling, conflict-plagued relationships. Far too many couples feel unable to improve their relationship or are frustrated because they have no idea how to make things better.
The sad fact is that couples who come in for relationship counseling have been in emotional pain and turmoil for an average of six years. They only come in when the pain becomes too great and it has been obvious for a long time that they are unable to handle the situation. It is important to recognize when your relationship is in trouble so you can get the help you need before it is too late. The warning signs of problems in a relationship include:
- Arguments that get out of control
- Poor communication
- Belligerence and emotional abuse
- Violence (physical abuse)
- Sexual problems
- An absence of affection or not enough affection and romance
- Feeling that your dreams and hopes have been stifled
- Lack of support for each other
- Feeling distant or disconnected from your partner
- Alcoholism, drug addiction
With arguments some of the particular signs of problems are:
- Getting angry or upset easily
- One of you refusing to communicate during an argument
- One of you walking away from arguments
- Feeling insulted or put down frequently
- On-going, emotionally painful conflicts about topics such as:
- Finances
- Children
- Sex
- In-laws
- Jealousy
- Household chores
When you see these warning signs in your relationship, please do not wait to get help. But to get help, you need to reach out for help. The sooner you come in, the easier it is to get positive results. There are even some couples who see me for premarital counseling so they can handle the challenges ahead.
Thanks to recent scientific discoveries about the how to have a successful relationship, real help is now available to couples in trouble. In my practice, I have applied and perfected these breakthrough techniques for guiding couples from frustration and constant conflict to renewed love and intimacy. I call my therapeutic system Couples Emotional Process
Therapy (CEPT).
If you choose to work with me I want you to know that in CEPT both of you examine your life together and make positive changes. It begins with the two of you telling me about your relationship in the initial interview. You will also fill out questionnaires and tests that give you important information about your relationship and guide me in setting up the therapy that is right for you.
In addition to working with couples who are experiencing trouble in their relationships, I also specialize in sex therapy. Most couples find that a loving relationship includes a mutually rewarding sexual relationship. With my background in nursing, I am able to address the physical and hormonal causes of low desire and sexual problems as well as the emotional and relationship difficulties that can underlie sexual problems. I work closely with physicians when necessary. When there are sexual problems, dealing with both sexual and relationship issues leads to satisfying, long-lasting results.
Here is what some of my clients have to say:
Thanks again for everything – You really made a difference in our lives. Alice and Paul
You were the first to give us tests to help us understand ourselves and each other. We saw several therapists and you were the first one to help us. Sheila and Henry |
